The following words might sound harsh, but nonetheless they are true. Parents believe they love their children, but since they cannot emotionally cope with the constant disregard for their authority, from children who often appear to be unappreciative, demanding, dishonest, disrespectful while living in their home, unwittingly, unconsciously distance themselves. They emotionally “move” away from their kids, commiserate with other parents in the same position, and allow their child their "own space” along with unacceptable behaviors, or react with anger, try control and threats they rarely carry out. Sending kids to college temporarily eases the tension. Once the child finishes school and moves back home it gets even worse. Now children often think they are adults, but feel they have little responsibility or accountability toward the parents whose house they live in. What is the R.E.A.L. solution?  Both college students and their parents have to learn new skills - unconditional behavior, communication, and that consequences really work.